What If Tino Katsande Was To Go Back To The Ex Who Beat Her Up?
So we were having a bit of think about it the other day and how life can be so frivolous. We wondered what would happen if radio personality Tino Katsande were to get back with Brian Munjodzi, the man who beat her up last year?
When we posed this question to a cross-section of people that we are in touch with and most said she would be crazy to reunite with Munjodzi. Some even went as far as to say that they would not forgive her. Another even suggested that it would be a blow for women’s rights.
Now we gave it a bit of a think ourselves and asked if her getting back with Munjodzi was anyone’s business but her own. At the end of the day the relationship is between the two of them. Yeah sure she made the abuse public but that was for a reason. Some would cynically say publicity but we would like to imagine it something more noble than that; like she was crying for help and saying that if it could happen to her then it could happen to anyone else. Arguing that Munjodzi should not get Munjodzi on the basis of some ideal is a bit rich.
Katsande is not a poster-child for every woman who has been abused. Every minute of her life should not be expected to reflect an ideal that many of us are unwilling or unable to commit to. Does she owe us anything? Should she even have to ask these questions?
There is a similarities between this situation and the Chris Brown, Rihanna one. They have gotten back together and for now they look happy.
Lessons can be learnt. Maybe second-chances may be given. Sure there is a the fear that comes being the bystander and because the horror has been played out in the public then we feel a fear of a repeat. It is because of that intimacy to that particular situation that our expectations have been heightened. We only see things in one way like a piece of drama on TV. For much of the public he is an abuser and nothing else.
At the end of the day, let’s be honest. It’s not any of our business. If she does make a choice to get back with him, then it is up to her. We might choose not to like it and have an opinion about it but such is life.