One of Mitchel Mandisi Mpofu’s last thoughts were that she deserved a better life than she was living. She felt as if nothing would go right in her life.
She was found dead in her flat in Guildford, London on 19 February and it is believed she had been dead since the 12th.
Through social media Mpofu had issued a cry for help. She had been miserable for her while as could be seen through her blog.
I deserve better than saying sorry to me through a text, I deserve better than a man who can’t even say sorry to the person they love, I deserve better than a man who can’t even say I love u to their own girlfriend, I deserve better than a boyfriend who would tell me their own girlfriend to abort his own child, I deserve better than a best friend who can’t tell u everything is going to be fine when you need them to, I deserve better that a boyfriend who thinks and talks about my money more than my health, I deserve better than a boyfriend who would let me cry and hurt for over a week over his own pride and actions…
That was only a small part of the Bulawayo-born Mpofu’s final entry onto that blog dated 5 February 2012. For many, that would appear to be a rant, some would even suggest misdirected tantrums.
For over a month she blew up her twitter with messages of despair. Some of the messages even suggested she was pregnant. Of course, people wrote on her wall but you wonder how many people went over to see her and help her through her desperate moments. Even as she lay dead in her flat on the 18th of February on her birthday, still undiscovered, some wrote on her wall wishing her a long life.
Makes you think of that song by Stevie Wonder and Babyface, How Come How Long:
How come, how long
It’s not right, it’s so wrong
Do we let it just go on
Turn our backs and carry on
Wake up, for it’s too late
Right now, we can’t wait
She won’t have a second try
Open up your hearts
As well as your eyes
Maybe the Internet is causing us to be less human. We think just writing on someone’s wall is enough, when all we need is the love and affection that lives beyond the click of a mouse button. For all the ‘friends’ she had on the net, she died, desperate, alone and feeling unloved.
The cause of her death is still unexplained.
Rest In Peace Mitchel.